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Sharon Strouse
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| The transformation of
mothers
Women seem to understand the power of time, and before becoming mothers, learned much about time management. Yes, efficiency is certainly something that most women pride themselves on. We fly into goal-oriented projects, sometimes carrying around a ‘to do’ list of chores, glowing with satisfaction each time one of the chores is completed and can be crossed off the list. Then, motherhood transforms us. Mothers learn quickly that efficiency is not their most important goal. Yes, sometimes we have to go in many directions at the same time, but more often than not, a successful mother has learned to let some things go. Motherhood teaches us that in order to thrive and survive, we must ignore the ‘list.’ When reading a book to a child, listening to a daughter’s problems with a friend, or keeping up on a walk in the woods with a pair of curious preschool boys, we learn to put the needs of a child first and foremost, no matter what is on the ‘list.’ Mothers try, but can’t often keep a tight schedule. The devastating truth of motherhood is that no matter how much we were accustomed to having things our own way, our way now is something that evolves based on the vital needs of those we choose to nurture. It pains me to hear my family harp about their perception that mom always gets her way. Fact: if I got my way so much of the time, why wouldn’t family life be perfect by now? Maybe this is a bit harsh, but has anyone given it any thought? Mothers could iron out the challenges each family faces, but usually their purest notions are ignored, and over time, mothers don’t even remember what their purest ideas to solve family problems were in the first place. After hundreds of compromises week after week, mothers rarely share a thought purely their own. Mothers have an uncanny way of sharing an idea that could have been a ‘007' or ‘Mission Impossible’ solution, but not one of a sensible mom, to gain approval from family members. When we can relate to our children with the finesse of a $50 an hour negotiator, we have grown to become more relaxed, flexible, and humane. Whenever I get to planning too far ahead related to my goals and preferences, like planning a redecorating project for a couple of years from now while reading a country decorating magazine, one of my children is bound to bring me back to reality with their sense of immediacy. “There’s a bug in the bathroom, and you gotta kill it now, ‘cause I gotta go.” The blessing of children is that they teach us how to become absorbed in the moment, rather than being tyrannized by a schedule. Living in reality is something we might have forgotten since our childhood, but like riding a bicycle, it’s easy to do - all over again. Spring Cleaning Matters
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| Leaders Developing Leaders
in the West Holmes School System
Human nature encourages individuals to find more faults than rights with
the job most of us are doing. This is shameful since most of us are trying
our best to right what is wrong in our world. In the past few years,
I have observed the conscious efforts of the leaders of West Holmes schools
leading their followers, the entire community, toward their vision of success.
Our hats off to these leaders who could not possibly do everything right,
but have certainly tried their best to. And, now, it’s time for a new hat.
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Updated: July, 2006